i get that i’m not that person who creates and protects an emotional space for you when you arrive. i get that you have to carve that out for yourself, even in my presence, and sometimes it’s even when i’m the host.
it’s not that i don’t understand how nice it is, cuz i do – having our very own space is great.
it’s not an issue that you prefer it, or even that you’re disappointed if you don’t get to enjoy it. i can even understand how it can make you feel really uncomfortable or unsafe not to to feel emotionally protected.
more power to you and others in building the emotional safe spaces you desire.
my question is why you don’t seem to feel an iota of responsibility in providing that for me, when you still think i need to provide you with that favor?